Tom emailed us with a screenshot of his flights, 9th – 17th August 2015.
We checked the price of the Jet2 flight and it was £315 return. According to David, he also booked the Premier Inn at Manchester Airport the evening prior to his flight. This would have added a further £80 or so to his travel expenses, plus train fare. On his arrival Amanda asked Tom if he was still living with his friends in the centre of Morecambe. He said no he had been back home at my daughter’s for the past 6 weeks and therefore under the heavy influence of my ex.
On his arrival at our house and having no mobile phone with him, I suggested he rang his mother using our landline to tell her he had arrived safely. He declined using our landline and said “It’s okay I will contact her on my tablet”. In hindsight this proves from the first day he arrived my daughter had no intention of talking to us and his visit was to ‘divide and conquer’.
On the very first evening here Tom was moaning poverty, saying he had an overdraft and was only earning £8 an hour working at Lidl. He brought with him a brand new Samsung tablet which was nearly £400. He said he could not afford to buy the tablet outright so was paying £12.50 a month for it. Here he was with an overdraft, couldn’t afford a tablet and had just spent nearly £500 to come and see us. If Tom had booked his own flights why hide the cost of them in a screenshot? Why not forward the flight booking confirmation email and let us see that he had paid £315. I believe my ex paid for all his expenses and his Samsung tablet in exchange for him coming out to hack our computer to gain access to all our private information.
There were two reasons Tom was sent out on these specific dates to hack our computer for my ex and daughter.
One was to find out if I had changed my Spanish Will, as the 15th August 2015 was the last date on which British Expats could register their Wills under British Law, thus avoiding Spanish Inheritance Law. Under Spanish Law my daughter would have been able to earmark two thirds of our property here in Spain. Thankfully, I had changed my Will to abide by British Law but had I not done so, on my death, Amanda could have been forced to sell the property and two thirds of the proceeds would have gone to my daughter. After my ex got the amount of money and assets from the divorce settlement, it would have been extremely unfair for us to pay twice and catastrophic for Amanda to say the least.
Additionally the 11th August is the anniversary of when Amanda and I first started living together. We had said previously to our neighbour in the UK, that for our 20th anniversary we may go on a cruise and by sending Tom on these dates was a good way of finding out what we were doing.
Whilst Tom was here we received an email on the 13th August in our hotmail account saying that an account had been established in Amanda’s name – artlovingal@gmail.com. Neither Amanda nor I had created this account. Amanda told Tom that someone had created a false email account in her name, but he offered no help or advice, even though he has an A Level in IT and would therefore be aware of the dangers of spurious email links.
I took Tom for a couple of flights to see the local area but he appeared totally disinterested. Tom skyped his father to wish him a happy 50th birthday and during the conversation we heard David say, “I believe you have been flying and are now a pilot Tom?”. Amanda asked “How do you know David?” and he said Tom has put it all over Facebook. This totally surprised me because whilst in the passenger seat he didn’t seem at all interested and never said he had enjoyed the experience, so putting it all over Facebook as though he was thrilled was a complete shock. He was making out on Facebook he was bonding with me, his Grandfather, but he didn’t even want me to have his mobile telephone number.
Whilst here Tom was not very communicative and spent most of his time on his Samsung tablet. His attitude at times left a lot to be desired but not having seen him for five years, I just thought this was how he had turned out, especially since his mother and father in 2009 had expressed concerns about his behaviour and attitude. Amanda was concerned because of his demeanour and said she thought that there was an ulterior motive to his visit, but I said as he was family and just here for over a week we should tolerate it, which was a huge mistake.
Even though Tom had his own Samsung tablet, which he connected to our internet through our router, having given him the password, on at least two occasions I caught him using our PC.
Tom emailed us on his return as though it had been a perfect weeks holiday. My reply was polite and friendly, but I felt it had been a waste of time. He had not mentioned anything about my daughter wanting to speak to us or given any information on what had happened in their lives for the past five years. Also at this point, even though we thought his visit was suspicious, neither of us had a clue he had hacked our pc.
David Tom’s father kept in touch with us by email after Tom had returned home. He sent a couple of emails with regards to my Granddaughter Ellie’s A Level results, and again I replied in a friendly and polite manner but was very disappointed that it was David passing on this information and not my daughter. This confirmed my daughter was heavily influenced by my ex and that she had no intention of speaking to us.
After Tom’s visit we had serious problems with our computer. Icons were moving all over the place and we noticed even after we had changed our router password, that Tom’s Samsung tablet was still connected to our pc from the UK. Our concerns were warranted when the followers on Amanda’s Art Blog started dropping off. Our suspicions were further increased when on Saturday 12th September 2015 my Granddaughter Ellie tweeted that Tom was basking in his fame and she was lol ‘laughing out loud’.
In May 2016 Amanda noticed more followers had dropped off her blog so she decided to delete it.
July 2016 our computer spyware picked up two Rootkits on our system. We spoke to a computer forensic expert in London who said to install Rootkits someone needed physical access to our pc. We explained that Tom was the only person who besides Amanda and I had physical access and since his visit we had serious problems with our computer. The expert stated that it usually is a family member that does this to gain complete control of the pc and have access to all passwords and personal information. My ex after the hack would have had access to all our private information and all the email contacts from our old hotmail account and would therefore be able to email them to defame Amanda.
In August we applied for a bank loan for me to buy a share in an Ultralight aircraft. In September our bank agreed the loan and phoned us whilst we were at the Flying Club saying if we went immediately to sign the paperwork we would get the loan at the agreed 7.5%. We arrived at our bank 35 minutes later and the Deputy Manager said she had received a fax from Madrid saying the loan had now gone up to 9.5%. This 2% increase had been arranged within 35 minutes. We were totally shocked by this and no explanation for the increase was forthcoming. When we asked who had authorised this she said it was someone at Head Office in Madrid but would not give us a name. This highlighted that there definitely was interference going on in our lives which was confirmed when we received a card posted on the 28th September 2016 from Melissa Ferring, ‘Dream the Impossible Dream, Reach for the Unreachable Star’, which was only printed in England, proving my ex had sent this to Melissa for her to send to us.
It was only in late 2016, whilst looking at another artist’s blog, Amanda noticed her photo had been distorted.
Tom had changed Amanda’s photo before May 2016 and this then changed Amanda’s photo on every blog she had followed. After Amanda had deleted her blog in May 2016 Tom could not change it back.
10th December 2016 a couple arrived at our gate who said they were Jehovah’s Witnesses called John and Heather Allin. They said they had come from the Morecambe area of the UK to pioneer in Spain. Amanda and I have friends who are Jehovah’s Witnesses which my daughter and my ex knew. Having known the Jehovah’s Witnesses for years, the woman Heather, in particular displayed none of the characteristics of what we would deem a genuine Jehovah’s Witness. There was no religious talk or literature whatsoever and the woman was particularly interested in talking to Amanda asking very private questions about IVF and told Amanda that she herself had Hepatitis B. Amanda does not have Hepatitis B but I do, which I found out in 2009 and had told my daughter in the summer of 2009 whilst she was here on holiday. My daughter must have passed this information on to my ex. The doctor told me it is dormant and that I had contracted it over 20 years earlier. The IVF information was in a private personal file on our hacked windows pc. This confirmed our suspicions that Tom had definitely hacked our computer and my ex had gained all the personal information.
A similar incident occurred in early 2017 when we attended a church service for the first time on a Wednesday evening in Torrevieja, a 60km drive from where we live. The incident not only proves that we are being followed, but shows the lengths to which my ex is prepared to go to interfere in our lives. We were not known to anybody in this English congregation and yet a couple made a b-line for me and started up a conversation asking questions. Apparently they were visiting from the UK but had a home in France and said they had lived the majority of their life in Morecambe. They asked personal questions about Grandchildren and whether we were still in communication with them. Again the conversation with complete strangers had our alarm bells ringing and seriously concerned us to the level of stalking that is occurring.